Having understood how the essence is expressed by our feelings and lived a few moments of letting go, we must now decide to respond to this call to the well-being and harmony provided by the alignment to the Essence. Choosing to be happy may seem obvious, but it is not so simple, because we must overcome, or rather ignore, our need to control our lives, the opinions, and opinions of those around us, the injunctions of our education, and many of our preconceptions. But if we let down our resistance, our doubts, our apprehensions, it becomes simple.
It’s as easy as driving the car to a driver and being driven without knowing where it’s going (with an infinitely wise and intelligent driver). This requires accepting to rely on him. This confronts us with the unknown. What is the feeling that allows us to let ourselves be led calmly by someone else? It’s trust. It may seem that you easily trust a driver who drives you, but has you thought that you control the journey visually? The real confidence that of letting go is to accept to let you drive with your eyes closed? It depends on who, of course. But we are talking about your Essence, are not you? The Essence is like an invisible inhabitant in your house, a host who has always been there, patient and unqualified, but with the desire that you develop the best of yourself. She’s the best friend you can have.
To open oneself to transformation, to trust oneself, to rely on one’s inner Being, does not require a new effort to reach a new state. There is no need to struggle and to restrain exercises or rites. On the contrary, it is to stop fighting oneself; it is to stop acting in a disorderly and unconscious way. There is only an effort of attention. First be sure to want change and pay attention to that goal. Then turn one’s gaze to a person of higher rank than our personality, our inner Being. It is nothing more than to pay more attention and finer to oneself, to become aware of oneself and one’s sensations, and to stop
The resistance strategies of the ego
This is an opportunity for us to extract ourselves from our sufferings and difficulties, and to give way to joy. This sounds quite wonderful, and our first reaction is generally that we should adopt this path. However, in practical reality, this decision raises many hesitations and resistance, because it asks us a radical change. Are we ready to change? Are we prepared to trust our divine driver? Are we ready to let ourselves be driven without knowing where he leads us? Or do we have good reasons not to let go and continue to follow our habits?
We often find reasons for postponing our intention to follow the indications of our inner being. We are too involved in our actions, our “responsibilities” and our “homework” to give time to the perception of our emotions and feelings. However, this is not a difficult technique reserved for yoga experts. Giving us attention is so simple that we think it’s not essential, and caught in our routine, we take it to the background.
For example, if we are tired or sick, we could listen to the signals from our body that ask us to rest. But our ego blows us that it is not possible and we divert our attention: You do not have the right to stop you, you must assume your responsibilities. Otherwise, the others will not be happy. If you do not do this, you will then have a lot of delays, you will be overwhelmed, you will feel helpless. You will be severely judged; you must not lose face with others, etc. Who is looking for excuses in us? It is our personality that seeks to pursue its to his convictions and his rules. These ego scenarios are based on fear, lack of trust.
The fear of losing and missing
One of the most widespread fears is the fear of losing. When everything seems to be going well, this fear is not necessarily conscious. I have nothing to lose. But when there is an incentive to change (change of attitude, though, relationship, profession, place, etc.), it manifests itself in resistance. Any change necessarily leads to a loss: to change house is to lose the enjoyment of the old. To change the profession is to drop the old one. To change habits is to give up the past and the landmarks that they provide. To marry is to lose one’s solitude. It also means losing the ability to choose another partner.
If I lose my house, my partner, my job, will I find another one? I may run out of money, security, love. So the fear of losing is accompanied by the fear of missing.
But in another aspect, change is also to gain the novelty that is introduced into our lives, perhaps better, more grandiose, more beautiful, warmer. And if this novelty is related to our well-being, it deserves to be seriously considered. The inner being invites us to betterment by guiding us in the present moment, while the ego refers to the past, and worries about the future. To change is to accept to die in the past to be reborn in the present.