If we are convinced that we have nothing to lose and everything to gain, it may seem absurd to be afraid to win. This fear is insidious and frequent. Many people have built their lives in the struggle to survive, by doing tasks, by solving difficulties, by fighting their illness, to the point that they have identified themselves with these actions. Imagine that they have health, money, love makes them nervous because they feel emptiness, they do not know who they are, they are lost, and they think they no longer exist. What can they do with happiness if they have no more suffering or problems to deal with?
As an exercise, imagine that you are given the opportunity to enjoy an extended stay in the country of your dreams. Or if you prefer, the best companion or companion corresponding to your ideal. Or, a significant sum of money. Then ask yourself. Would you be willing to leave your occupations, your habits? You feel that the example makes you drool with envy, or arouses pleasure. If at the same time, you think mounting some reluctance and concern, they are fears of the ego.
Are we ready to assume joy, health, friendly relations? Are we prepared to see ourselves beautiful, beautiful, and radiant? Some are very disturbed by this idea. This comes with the responsibility to live and take your place fully. Although this is done naturally, our personality is again confronted by old wounds, memories where being in light attracted jealousy or enmity, or even hatred.
Guilt to be happy can also be present because so many people are in trouble and pain. Am I allowed to go well while others suffer around me? Will I be frowned upon, ranked in the haves, rejected?
The fear of the Unknown
The concern of change stems from the fact that we do not know where the present is leading us. We are advancing into the unknown, and this stranger is worrying us. We do not trust the signposts and the inner driver.
How can the unknown scare us? We do not feel safe. What am I training for? What fate does it hold for me? It is the fear of losing one’s integrity, fear of no longer existing as a healthy and whole being. The unknown seems dangerous and threatening to us.
In contrast, we have learned to situate ourselves as a personality with our social roles. We have built our lives, sometimes hard, by making benchmarks (profession, family, relationships, etc.) that allow us to feel safe, at least until these landmarks fall apart. Also, we are afraid of losing them. We are so scared to see all our efforts dashed. We cling to what we have because it is what we know. Letting go is to agree to detach ourselves from these landmarks, it is to separate the boat from the shore. But where will he lead us? Making go confronts us with our attachment to our possessions.